I'm so extremly fed up with girls who proclaim their throroughness to guys about how they can handle the truth.
"I just want you to be honest.. please, just tell me the truth.", "You don't know how I'm going to react, try me??"
Give up the act ladies! Please, because as soon as the guy tells you how he is feeling you go straight to BLACK and go ape sh#t on him.
I know it may seem like I'm deserting my own sex but this very thing messes it up for the ladies that can actually handle hearing the truth. As fun as it may be to decipher code and the translation of your true feelings, men please if you are honest from the beginning then you wont have any problems. On the plus side guys, the female, in return, will be less likely to turn you down. Use your charismatic personality to win them over. The majority of the female population are naturally attracted to guys who are honest. Honesty shows that you have nothing to hide (making us feel like you can be open with us and vice versa) and exudes confidence (a definite TURN ON). Knowing everything from the beginning will allow you to say things like, "Well, I told you I wasn't looking for a relationship" or "I let you know all of these things from jump." In return males, this will limit unecessary damge to cars, clothes, shoes, or any other "priceless" materialist things. A female will feel stupid to even go there because, in the end we always end up saying things like "The least he could've done was tell me the truth." And anyone she tries to vent to will say "At least he was honest and told you what was good from the start." In the end you will be respected for being a MAN and being honest instead of played and disrespected behind your back for being a COWARD.
Emotional females...SMH!
ReplyDeleteSpeaking truth from the start is simply the best way to live any part of your life. Particularly in relationships. However, as a man to other men that may be starting out, simply telling the truth doesnt mean the road gets easier. Females at one point or another will always have their moments of extreme emotion. If you are looking for the better days ahead though, the truth will always set you free.
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I completely agree however, men know that it is in a woman's nature to be emotional to a certain extent and nothing about that will ever change. To a certain extent we tend to get trapped in our feelings. Yet that doesn't negate the fact that everyone, including females, deserve to hear the truth. Why rob someone of THEIR right to choose to stay or leave? Is the actual act of being in a relationship more important than building a sturdy foundation for that relationship to last past, let's say a year or two? Are honesty and trust traits that need to be dismissed when choosing a potential mate???
ReplyDeleteI will respond to the latter part of your reply because it seems we are saying much of the same thing. To some the act of being in a relationship is indeed more important than building the relationship correctly from day one. That to me is an equation that undoubtably equals failure, and in most cases not just a crash-n-burn but more so a Hiroshima of events. It is imperative that a relationship that means something more to you than a one night stand be built on honesty and trust. I whole heartedly believe that without trust in any point in time of a relationshiop then that relationship dies right then and there. Therefore those two traits should be some of the very first things we should think about when chosing a mate, never last.
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I couldn't have said it better myself. Perfect comment, especially coming from a man. You don't typically hear things like thus coming from the male species but it is very reassuring to know that their are some, very few, that believe in building healthy relationships. You are having me question my "A Man Is A Man, Is A Man" theory...nice.
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